8.29.2015

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I AM BLOWN AWAY!

It's been one month since I started the blog and what a month it has been!  

Each week, I've been so excited to share the next post and to have the opportunity to connect with you again.  

So many of you have said how much you've enjoyed it and I want to say thank you to each of you for stopping by to read, leave a comment, like a photo or just to say hello.

I am blown away by the interaction, page views and readers from 15 different countries! 



It's been incredible and I'm sending a "BIG SHOUT OUT!" to all my new friends in the:  US, Ireland, Germany, France, United Kingdom, Russia, Dubai, The Netherlands, India, Sweden, Spain, Czech Republic, Mexico, Singapore and South Africa!  

You make my day, everyday and I can't wait to share what I have planned for next month. 

This coming week, I'll be launching a brand new Cover, Theme and Post for September that I've been preparing just for you.  You won't want to miss it!  

Please feel free to comment, share and connect on my other media sites.  You can find me on FacebookInstagram and Pinterest.  You can also send an email by clicking the contact button on the sidebar.  

I'd love to hear from you!

8.22.2015

KNOW LIMITS | Understanding your limiting beliefs

Do you have any limiting beliefs that tend to hold you back? I know I do.  But what exactly are limiting beliefs and how do we get them?




Limiting beliefs are the thoughts we have about ourselves and others that hinder our progress in work, friendship, love relationships, family dynamics and even our relationship with God.

Have you ever told yourself, "I'm too short, I'm too tall, I'm too skinny, I'm too fat, I don't have enough time, I'll never find a mate, I'm not smart enough, I'll never be successful, I'm too old, I'm too young, I'm not technically savvy, I'll never get the promotion, I don't have enough money, I'll never learn how, does God really love me.....?"

Often, our thoughts can get stuck in certain holding patterns that keep us circling around and around in the same experiences.  

Have you ever found yourself in a situation and asked, "How did I get here again?"  Most likely, it's a limiting belief that brings us back to that same familiar place.

For example, you may have the belief that you're not good with money.  Perhaps you've had an experience in the past where you've had a failed business deal or investment and you lost everything.  Now your credit is less than perfect and you've received a few rejections along the way.

As a result, you've lost the confidence in your ability to make sound financial decisions or the faith that other windows of opportunity will become available.

The truth is that many successful business people have had major setbacks.  The difference is in the way they view the setback.  

Rather than attaching the failed opportunity to themselves as a badge of dishonor, they take it as an opportunity to learn from the experience and make better decisions the next time.  

Failure isn't final.  Failures can be fixed.

"Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently." - Henry Ford

What about in relationships?  We've all felt the sting of hurt, disappointment, rejection and even betrayal or disloyalty.  

Generally, those that are closest to us can hurt us the most because that is where our heartstrings are attached.

A rift in a close relationship can set us off-balance and have us questioning ourselves and the motives of others who come into our lives.  

Many times, misunderstandings, assumptions and distorted perceptions can cause us to believe the worst and lead us to jump to a conclusion that isn't true.

If someone has hurt you in the past, the next time someone does something that you don't understand or gets close to an area that hasn't healed, you can be quick to assume that their motives are wrong and shut them out without giving them the benefit of the doubt or making room for open communication that will lead to a clear understanding.  

Quick assumptions are generally wrong and our limiting beliefs in relationships can cause us to shut down and shut others out in an effort to protect ourselves from being hurt or disappointed again.

But it's good to remember that, "Perception is opinion.  Reality is truth."

When we allow ourselves to heal from past hurts, practice forgiveness and leave room for open communication, the limiting belief that others intend the worst will change and we'll find ourselves mending relationships and believing that we can experience new, more positive and meaningful relationships in the future.

By lifting our thoughts and choosing to use a more positive narrative when we speak about ourselves and others, we can change the limiting beliefs that hold us back.

Here are a few alternatives that will make a big difference:  Instead of saying...            

I'm a failure... 
I wasn't successful this time, but I can make changes and do better the next time!

I don't have time...
I can schedule my time to make room for the things I enjoy!  Everyone has the same 24 hours.

I'm unhealthy...
I can make better choices in rest, eating and exercise that will help me to feel better and to look great!

I'm too old...
I have a wealth of knowledge and experience that will be beneficial to any opportunity that comes my way!

I'm too young...
I have the time and energy to meet new challenges and learn new skills!

Does God love me...
Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; Therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you.  - Jeremiah 31:3

Recognizing our limiting beliefs is the first step in creating real change in our perspective about ourselves and others.

By practicing a new narrative, we can become more confident and live in a more positive, productive way.

What are some limiting beliefs that you would like to change or have already changed?  Maybe your experience will encourage someone else.

Feel free to write a comment or share this post with someone else.

Thanks for stopping by!

8.15.2015

DON'T PUSH ME! | Don't be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams.

Don't be pushed by your problems.
Be led by your dreams. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

No one likes to be pushed.  Yet everyday, we can find ourselves being pushed to keep a pace that is nothing short of exhausting.  Our to-do list begins with tasks left over from the day before and ends with tasks just begging to be checked off by the time we go to bed.  



Our days can become so repetitious that we fail to notice we’re going through life without really living. 

It’s not on purpose.  It’s not something we’ve planned, but it’s often said, “the squeaky wheel (problems) get’s the most grease or attention.”  

When we’re pushed by our problems, we live in a reactive state, responding to the things that are happening to us, rather than actively creating the things that will work for us and lead us toward a specific goal or dream.

Can you remember a time when you’ve felt pushed to do something that you didn’t want to do? Maybe you were asked to lead a project, give a speech or accept a job you didn’t like just because you needed the money.  How did it make you feel?  Was there a sense of anxiety, fear or resentment?  

Have you ever had a time when the only thing you looked forward to was going back to bed?  If so, it could be an indication that you’re being pushed by your problems instead of being led by your dreams.


| Being led by your dreams is simply listening
to that inner voice that speaks to you. |  

It’s that part of you that is trying to guide you toward the path you were meant to take.  Some may call it conscious, others may call it intuition.  

When we listen to that inner voice, it speaks to us about the person we aspire to be.   We are all given natural abilities that are there to shape us, guide us and provide for us.  

However, when life happens and problems arise, it can shift our focus, sap our creative energy and take us out of the game.  Consequently, we end up using the best part of ourselves to handle life instead of create it and there’s nothing left to invest in areas where we're truly connected.

This can create a cycle I call, “the 9 to 5, just to survive mentality.”  

Now I’m not suggesting that we all have lives that are off track.  In fact, many of us have dreams that we're working toward.  But if there's someone who feels like they’ve gotten on the treadmill and can’t seem to get off,  I'd like you to know that you have choices that can change things for the better.

So, what can we do to live in a more authentic way? I believe balance is the key.

We can’t ignore the responsibilities that need our attention, but we also
shouldn’t ignore the things that give us joy and a sense of connection to the things that we’re passionate about.

Problems are pushy.  They’re constantly crying out, “What about me?  Look at me! Pay attention to me, Me, ME!”  While our dreams tend to be more quiet and consistent.  They say, “Remember when we wanted to do that? Or, wouldn’t it be great if we did this?  Dreams are inclusive and generally come from a place of giving and sharing, while problems selfishly grasp for all of our time and focus.

| Problems are meant to be solved.
Dreams are meant to be lived. |

So what are a few things we can do daily to keep us balanced while we invest in our dreams?

  1. Create a dream sheet or vision board.  Remember, we tend to move in the direction of our focus.
  2. Plan ahead for unexpected problems such as having an emergency fund, back-up child care and medical insurance to help prepare for those rainy days.
  3. Create a workable budget that includes your dreams such as travel, philanthropy, starting a business, etc.  A true plan can turn a wish into a dream.   
  4. If you’ve lost your dream, I encourage you to take some time to dig deep and remember those things that make your heart sing.

It’s never too late and you’re never too young or too old to dream.

A dream written down with a date becomes a goal.  A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan.  A plan backed by action makes your dreams come true.  - Greg S. Reid

8.08.2015

LIFT YOUR THOUGHTS | Creating a new way to think

It is said that the mind is a terrible thing to waste.  But what is it about a thought that has the power to propel us forward to our purpose or keep us paralyzed and tied to our past?  Our thoughts are a part of us.  They live with us.  They lead us.  



Experts say that we think between 50,000 - 80,000 thoughts per day.  Wouldn’t it be great if the majority of those thoughts were positive, empowering, creative and supportive?  By choosing to focus on our possibilities instead of our limitations, we create an environment for a more productive and happier life.  

 I like the quote by Mark Twain that says, “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”  

Many of the things that we think about ourselves can hinder us because we can be our own worst critic.  

We were created for greatness and each of us has unique talents and abilities that make the world a better place. 

That's why it’s important to remember to lift our thoughts, because we often gravitate toward our point of focus.  For example, if you’re driving a car and take your eyes off of the road to look at something along the way, if you focus on it for too long, the car will begin to move in that direction.  It’s the same way with our thoughts.

Have you ever noticed that there are those who have learned to cultivate a positive attitude and move effortlessly toward their goals, while others tend to struggle to get started, and never seem to get things moving in the right direction?  What is it that makes the two so different?

A glass half-empty is never full, while a glass half-full has room for more.

Without noticing, we can find ourselves embracing limiting thoughts that keep us focused on what we believe we can’t do, rather than what we can.

But what if we flipped the switch and changed the conversation to a more supportive train of thought?

I once heard an illustration about our minds being like Grand Central Station with “trains of thought” constantly traveling in and out.  There are trains that travel into dark tunnels and trains that travel in the direction of light.  We get to choose which ticket we purchase.

Just as Maya Angelou expressed that “words are things," thoughts are also things that manifest in tangible ways.

With a constant stream of media, daily stressors and a lack of rest, it’s possible for our thoughts to become weighed down.  

So what can we do to lift our thoughts and keep us traveling in a more positive direction?  Let’s re-focus to form new habits.

We can choose to:
  1. Embrace the talents and abilities that make us unique and allow ourselves to enjoy our accomplishments. 
  2. Monitor the voice inside our head and not allow negative thoughts to linger.  Take the train in a different direction.  
  3. Get more rest.  You’ll be amazed at how getting 8 hours of sleep consistently will improve your health and overall sense of well-being.  You will feel more capable to handle the stress and challenges of the day.
  4. Turn off the constant stream of media and only read the news that you’re truly interested in.  
  5. Identify the stressors in your life and make the necessary changes that will lighten your load.  
  6. Limit how much you put on your plate.  It’s ok to set boundaries and say no to people and things that weigh you down.
  7. Have fun, be adventurous and enjoy life!  Allow yourself to reconnect with the people and things that make you happy.  

Have dinner with friends, learn to play an instrument, ride a motorcycle, take a class, run a marathon, help a charity, become a mentor, learn a new language, go hiking or plan that trip you’ve always wanted to take.

The list is truly endless… but only you can choose what works for you.


Life is meant to be enjoyed and not just lived.  The good news is that when you learn a new way to think, you can learn a new way to be.

Thanks for stopping by!
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8.04.2015

ONE SMALL CHOICE CAN MAKE A BIG CHANGE

What small choice can you make today that will make a big change in your health, relationships, finances or future?



Just a few days ago, a friend and I had a conversation about drinking more water and the great health benefits it has.  Although I know how good it is for me, the lack of flavor tends to get me off track after a while and I start to reach for other, more flavorful options.  

However, by choosing to be more consistent in drinking water, I'll reap the benefits of making a better choice for my health.  

What's the take away?
It doesn't always take a big choice to make a positive change.  

What small choice can you make today?

Getting more rest?
Exercising?
Eating less sugar?
Starting a savings account?
Creating a budget?
Setting boundaries?
Saying, "I'm sorry?
Accepting an apology?
Setting a goal?


Feel free to share a choice you'll make today. Your choice may inspire someone else!

8.01.2015

COVER | AUGUST 2015

Here's a look at what's coming this month! 
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PATIENCE PLEASE | Stay patient and enjoy the journey

When we think of patience, we often envision a long, drawn-out process that keeps us from our goals or hinders us from having the things we want most in life.  Patience is seen as the challenge, the wall, the enemy, the opponent.

But what if we made friends with patience?  What if we invited her over for coffee and finally made peace?  What if we stopped resisting and slowed down long enough to appreciate the value that patience adds to the journey?



“Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while you wait.”  -Joyce Meyer

"Patience is a form of wisdom.  It demonstrates that we understand and accept the fact that sometimes, things must unfold in their own time.” - Jon Kabat-Zinn  

I know in my own life, there have been many times when I have been impatient and tried to rush something or someone to get the results I wanted and most of the time, things didn’t turn out the way I thought they would.  In fact, there were times when it turned out worse or not at all.

I can remember as a child, being excited about something that was going to happen and I would say to my mom, "I can't wait...!"  She understood what I was saying and knew that I was excited and she would smile and ask, "Then what will you do?"

That was such a teachable moment!  She, in her wisdom, knew the value of waiting and with that simple question, she was teaching me that there was a choice I could make, even in waiting.

Would I forge ahead and make things happen? Would I allow things to unfold at the right time or would I let curiosity get the best of me?  

In other words, would I search the house to find my Christmas presents, shake the packages under the tree or wait to be surprised on Christmas morning?  I know many of us can relate to that one!  

While it's amusing and easy to see the best choice in this scenario.... (to wait for Christmas morning, right?), we can sometimes miss the everyday opportunities that allow patience to work in our favor.

So what is it that makes us impatient?  Is it the easy access to everything at our fingertips?

Sometimes, we can feel that if we don’t act now, we may lose our nerve and not act at all.  There are also times when we feel that we’ll miss an incredible, life-changing opportunity.  But often, we’re simply excited about an idea or plan and we just want to get started.  We can’t wait to see the final results!

Excitement is not a bad thing.  In fact, it’s vital.  Excitement is fuel.  It’s motivation.  But excitement and impatience together can cause you to skip important steps in the process and even worse, it could cause you to overlook the feelings and contributions of others involved along the way.

So how can we reevaluate patience?  How can we begin to view it as an ally and not an enemy of our progress?

We Can:
  1. Recognize that patience is a part of the journey, not a hindrance.
  2. Trust that we’ll gain valuable insight about ourselves and our goals along the way.
  3. Set short-term goals to achieve during the process that will give a sense of accomplishment as we move forward.
  4. Take time to appreciate and enjoy the process, because a lesson learned is a lesson that doesn't have to be repeated.


    Generally, when we give ourselves permission to trust the journey and remain flexible, we make room for growth and make it possible to recognize the right doors, at the right time, as they open along the way.

    So as we make the choice to practice more patience, it may not be easy at first, but remember, "One small choice can make a big change!"