8.15.2015

DON'T PUSH ME! | Don't be pushed by your problems. Be led by your dreams.

Don't be pushed by your problems.
Be led by your dreams. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

No one likes to be pushed.  Yet everyday, we can find ourselves being pushed to keep a pace that is nothing short of exhausting.  Our to-do list begins with tasks left over from the day before and ends with tasks just begging to be checked off by the time we go to bed.  



Our days can become so repetitious that we fail to notice we’re going through life without really living. 

It’s not on purpose.  It’s not something we’ve planned, but it’s often said, “the squeaky wheel (problems) get’s the most grease or attention.”  

When we’re pushed by our problems, we live in a reactive state, responding to the things that are happening to us, rather than actively creating the things that will work for us and lead us toward a specific goal or dream.

Can you remember a time when you’ve felt pushed to do something that you didn’t want to do? Maybe you were asked to lead a project, give a speech or accept a job you didn’t like just because you needed the money.  How did it make you feel?  Was there a sense of anxiety, fear or resentment?  

Have you ever had a time when the only thing you looked forward to was going back to bed?  If so, it could be an indication that you’re being pushed by your problems instead of being led by your dreams.


| Being led by your dreams is simply listening
to that inner voice that speaks to you. |  

It’s that part of you that is trying to guide you toward the path you were meant to take.  Some may call it conscious, others may call it intuition.  

When we listen to that inner voice, it speaks to us about the person we aspire to be.   We are all given natural abilities that are there to shape us, guide us and provide for us.  

However, when life happens and problems arise, it can shift our focus, sap our creative energy and take us out of the game.  Consequently, we end up using the best part of ourselves to handle life instead of create it and there’s nothing left to invest in areas where we're truly connected.

This can create a cycle I call, “the 9 to 5, just to survive mentality.”  

Now I’m not suggesting that we all have lives that are off track.  In fact, many of us have dreams that we're working toward.  But if there's someone who feels like they’ve gotten on the treadmill and can’t seem to get off,  I'd like you to know that you have choices that can change things for the better.

So, what can we do to live in a more authentic way? I believe balance is the key.

We can’t ignore the responsibilities that need our attention, but we also
shouldn’t ignore the things that give us joy and a sense of connection to the things that we’re passionate about.

Problems are pushy.  They’re constantly crying out, “What about me?  Look at me! Pay attention to me, Me, ME!”  While our dreams tend to be more quiet and consistent.  They say, “Remember when we wanted to do that? Or, wouldn’t it be great if we did this?  Dreams are inclusive and generally come from a place of giving and sharing, while problems selfishly grasp for all of our time and focus.

| Problems are meant to be solved.
Dreams are meant to be lived. |

So what are a few things we can do daily to keep us balanced while we invest in our dreams?

  1. Create a dream sheet or vision board.  Remember, we tend to move in the direction of our focus.
  2. Plan ahead for unexpected problems such as having an emergency fund, back-up child care and medical insurance to help prepare for those rainy days.
  3. Create a workable budget that includes your dreams such as travel, philanthropy, starting a business, etc.  A true plan can turn a wish into a dream.   
  4. If you’ve lost your dream, I encourage you to take some time to dig deep and remember those things that make your heart sing.

It’s never too late and you’re never too young or too old to dream.

A dream written down with a date becomes a goal.  A goal broken down into steps becomes a plan.  A plan backed by action makes your dreams come true.  - Greg S. Reid

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