8.22.2015

KNOW LIMITS | Understanding your limiting beliefs

Do you have any limiting beliefs that tend to hold you back? I know I do.  But what exactly are limiting beliefs and how do we get them?




Limiting beliefs are the thoughts we have about ourselves and others that hinder our progress in work, friendship, love relationships, family dynamics and even our relationship with God.

Have you ever told yourself, "I'm too short, I'm too tall, I'm too skinny, I'm too fat, I don't have enough time, I'll never find a mate, I'm not smart enough, I'll never be successful, I'm too old, I'm too young, I'm not technically savvy, I'll never get the promotion, I don't have enough money, I'll never learn how, does God really love me.....?"

Often, our thoughts can get stuck in certain holding patterns that keep us circling around and around in the same experiences.  

Have you ever found yourself in a situation and asked, "How did I get here again?"  Most likely, it's a limiting belief that brings us back to that same familiar place.

For example, you may have the belief that you're not good with money.  Perhaps you've had an experience in the past where you've had a failed business deal or investment and you lost everything.  Now your credit is less than perfect and you've received a few rejections along the way.

As a result, you've lost the confidence in your ability to make sound financial decisions or the faith that other windows of opportunity will become available.

The truth is that many successful business people have had major setbacks.  The difference is in the way they view the setback.  

Rather than attaching the failed opportunity to themselves as a badge of dishonor, they take it as an opportunity to learn from the experience and make better decisions the next time.  

Failure isn't final.  Failures can be fixed.

"Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently." - Henry Ford

What about in relationships?  We've all felt the sting of hurt, disappointment, rejection and even betrayal or disloyalty.  

Generally, those that are closest to us can hurt us the most because that is where our heartstrings are attached.

A rift in a close relationship can set us off-balance and have us questioning ourselves and the motives of others who come into our lives.  

Many times, misunderstandings, assumptions and distorted perceptions can cause us to believe the worst and lead us to jump to a conclusion that isn't true.

If someone has hurt you in the past, the next time someone does something that you don't understand or gets close to an area that hasn't healed, you can be quick to assume that their motives are wrong and shut them out without giving them the benefit of the doubt or making room for open communication that will lead to a clear understanding.  

Quick assumptions are generally wrong and our limiting beliefs in relationships can cause us to shut down and shut others out in an effort to protect ourselves from being hurt or disappointed again.

But it's good to remember that, "Perception is opinion.  Reality is truth."

When we allow ourselves to heal from past hurts, practice forgiveness and leave room for open communication, the limiting belief that others intend the worst will change and we'll find ourselves mending relationships and believing that we can experience new, more positive and meaningful relationships in the future.

By lifting our thoughts and choosing to use a more positive narrative when we speak about ourselves and others, we can change the limiting beliefs that hold us back.

Here are a few alternatives that will make a big difference:  Instead of saying...            

I'm a failure... 
I wasn't successful this time, but I can make changes and do better the next time!

I don't have time...
I can schedule my time to make room for the things I enjoy!  Everyone has the same 24 hours.

I'm unhealthy...
I can make better choices in rest, eating and exercise that will help me to feel better and to look great!

I'm too old...
I have a wealth of knowledge and experience that will be beneficial to any opportunity that comes my way!

I'm too young...
I have the time and energy to meet new challenges and learn new skills!

Does God love me...
Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; Therefore with lovingkindness I have drawn you.  - Jeremiah 31:3

Recognizing our limiting beliefs is the first step in creating real change in our perspective about ourselves and others.

By practicing a new narrative, we can become more confident and live in a more positive, productive way.

What are some limiting beliefs that you would like to change or have already changed?  Maybe your experience will encourage someone else.

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Thanks for stopping by!

2 comments :

  1. I have throughly enjoyed reading this insightful post. I must confess that I was able to relate to some of limiting beliefs, some I have overcome, one or two I am still challenged by. As for the failed love relationships, I have found that we tend to erect a wall to keep us from ever being hurt again, however I found that there is a flaw in the design of the wall. That is that not only does it keep one from being hurt, it also keeps one from experiencing true love, love that has no hidden motives, love that adds to and not take away from. I hope this helps someone.

    Thanks again for this post and I look forward to reading more of your inspiring
    posts.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing! Yes, I think we all have a few limiting beliefs that we're working on everyday. I believe the first step is recognizing them. Knowledge is power and once we realize that we are being held back by an internal belief, we can make the necessary changes to move forward in a positive way. The first step is the hardest, but thankfully, we can make one step at a time. Take Care!

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