PATIENCE PLEASE | Stay patient and enjoy the journey

When we think of patience, we often envision a long, drawn-out process that keeps us from our goals or hinders us from having the things we want most in life.  Patience is seen as the challenge, the wall, the enemy, the opponent.

But what if we made friends with patience?  What if we invited her over for coffee and finally made peace?  What if we stopped resisting and slowed down long enough to appreciate the value that patience adds to the journey?

“Patience is not the ability to wait, but the ability to keep a good attitude while you wait.”  -Joyce Meyer

"Patience is a form of wisdom.  It demonstrates that we understand and accept the fact that sometimes, things must unfold in their own time.” - Jon Kabat-Zinn  

I know in my own life, there have been many times when I have been impatient and tried to rush something or someone to get the results I wanted and most of the time, things didn’t turn out the way I thought they would.  In fact, there were times when it turned out worse or not at all.

I can remember as a child, being excited about something that was going to happen and I would say to my mom, "I can't wait...!"  She understood what I was saying and knew that I was excited and she would smile and ask, "Then what will you do?"

That was such a teachable moment!  She, in her wisdom, knew the value of waiting and with that simple question, she was teaching me that there was a choice I could make, even in waiting.

Would I forge ahead and make things happen? Would I allow things to unfold at the right time or would I let curiosity get the best of me?  

In other words, would I search the house to find my Christmas presents, shake the packages under the tree or wait to be surprised on Christmas morning?  I know many of us can relate to that one!  

While it's amusing and easy to see the best choice in this scenario.... (to wait for Christmas morning, right?), we can sometimes miss the everyday opportunities that allow patience to work in our favor.

So what is it that makes us impatient?  Is it the easy access to everything at our fingertips?

Sometimes, we can feel that if we don’t act now, we may lose our nerve and not act at all.  There are also times when we feel that we’ll miss an incredible, life-changing opportunity.  But often, we’re simply excited about an idea or plan and we just want to get started.  We can’t wait to see the final results!

Excitement is not a bad thing.  In fact, it’s vital.  Excitement is fuel.  It’s motivation.  But excitement and impatience together can cause you to skip important steps in the process and even worse, it could cause you to overlook the feelings and contributions of others involved along the way.

So how can we reevaluate patience?  How can we begin to view it as an ally and not an enemy of our progress?

We Can:
  1. Recognize that patience is a part of the journey, not a hindrance.
  2. Trust that we’ll gain valuable insight about ourselves and our goals along the way.
  3. Set short-term goals to achieve during the process that will give a sense of accomplishment as we move forward.
  4. Take time to appreciate and enjoy the process, because a lesson learned is a lesson that doesn't have to be repeated.

    Generally, when we give ourselves permission to trust the journey and remain flexible, we make room for growth and make it possible to recognize the right doors, at the right time, as they open along the way.

    So as we make the choice to practice more patience, it may not be easy at first, but remember, "One small choice can make a big change!"                 


    1. I have to agree with the comment about a small choice makes a big change. Just last week I chose to add a spiritual practice to a situation that has been riding my back for years, and within that weeks time the situation has changed toward a positive direction in a very big way.

      1. It's true Carol, sometimes a different approach makes all the difference. I'm glad your situation is moving in a positive direction. Thanks for sharing!

    2. Thank you Madge. This blog is awesome! This was God sent for me. I'm dealing with three different areas in my life that I'm waiting to mature so I can move metaphorically speaking, and I need patience, because I'm excited and I can't wait. I know God's is in control and His timing is most important, not mine. I will definitely be using the four suggestions that you recommended on my journey of waiting. Thank you for this blog it was very insightful!-Channell

    3. Hi Channell, thank you for sharing! I look forward to those areas blossoming in your life. I'm so glad you're enjoying the blog!